Earlier this month, I committed to a 30-day social media fast. I thought it would be simple—delete the apps, free up time, and spend less on my phone. But almost immediately, I realized it wasn’t going to be that easy. Even without Instagram or TikTok, I still found myself reaching for my phone out of habit. That made me pause and ask: What am I really running from? Why do I feel the need to keep my mind so busy?
With the usual scroll no longer an option, I had to get creative about how I spent my time. I played Kanoodle and Sudoku, picked up a new book, started exercising more, and even discovered a new TV series I enjoyed. I let myself soak in music without distraction, carved out intentional time to be with my loved ones, and had the kind of deep conversations with my children that might have slipped away if I’d been staring at a screen.
At first, it was uncomfortable to sit with myself. But little by little, I started to enjoy my own company. And in that stillness, things I had been avoiding began to surface—the hard questions, the parts of myself I’d rather outrun. Strangely enough, facing them brought peace. Because if I can name a thought, I can face it—and if I can face it, I can take control of it.
This fast didn’t just teach me about my habits. It reminded me of my strength—physically, mentally, and emotionally. And perhaps most importantly, it helped me fall in love with myself in a deeper, quieter way.
How You Can Spend More Time With Yourself
If you’re curious about unplugging—or simply want to reconnect with yourself—here’s a simple action plan inspired by my journey:
- Start small. Try just one day off social media before committing to a week or more.
- Fill the space with intention. Play a puzzle game, read, exercise, listen to music, or watch something new—without multitasking.
- Connect deeply. Use the extra time to spend with loved ones or have real conversations with your kids, partner, or friends.
- Create phone-free moments. Try mornings without reaching for your phone or evenings where it stays in another room.
- Sit with your thoughts. When restlessness shows up, ask yourself: What am I avoiding? What do I need to face?
Spending time with yourself might feel uncomfortable at first, but just like any relationship, it grows stronger with practice. And as it does, you’ll discover clarity, strength, and a kind of peace that no screen can provide.
